The Safe Haven Team
Meet Our Relationship Experts
Specialties
Couples, distressed marriages facing emotional disconnection, affairs, betrayal or infidelity. Families, high profile couples, executives and leaders.
Dr. Sharon G. May, Ph.D
Founder & President, Safe Haven Relationship Center
Dr. Sharon May is the Founder and President of Safe Haven Relationship Center. She received a Ph.D. in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Master’s degree in Theology from the Fuller Graduate School, and is a certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) practitioner and supervisor.
Her dissertation and consequent research work has focused on EFT, attachment theory and the importance of healthy and strong marriage and family relationships being ‘safe havens’.
Over the years Dr. May has been featured on radio programs, such as “Arguing with Dr. Sharon,” Focus on the Family, Family Talk and television, such as Life Today. Dr. May has published numerous articles in psychological journals, contributed chapters in marriage and family books. Her two books are titled: Safe Haven Marriage and How to argue so your spouse will listen (Thomas Nelson Publisher). She leads the well-known monthly women’s virtual retreat “Become Your Best” as well as the couples virtual group “Grow Together” and the virtual therapist training group “Walking Besides.
She has travelled world-wide to speak at conferences and train counselors. Raised in South Africa, her accent and sense of humor make her an engaging speaker. She shares life and work with her husband, Mike.
Alan A. Hart, M.S, M.A.T
Director, Safe Haven Relationship Center
Alan brings a wealth of experience and a truly human touch to his work with couples and families. With a Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from Fuller School of Psychology, Alan has been a dedicated presence in the mental health field since 2010. He’s had the privilege of working with a diverse range of individuals, from couples and families to adults and teens, helping them navigate life’s complexities.
Alan’s expertise lies in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), a powerful approach that he combines with the latest research on relational health and attachment to foster truly thriving lives. At Safe Haven Relationship Center, Alan is passionate about leading marriage intensive seminars, as well as pre-marital and family intensives. He believes deeply in the transformative power of these extended sessions, where significant progress can be made in just a few days.
When he’s not guiding others through their relational journeys, Alan cherishes his own family life. He’s been happily married for over a decade and loves nothing more than walking the beautiful beaches of Southern California with his wife, son, and daughter. An avid home chef, Alan finds joy in the kitchen, cooking up something delicious for his family and friends.
Specialties
Relational challenges, marriage, betrayal, parenting, anxiety, stress, grief, depression, and the unique hurdles faced by emerging adults.